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3.2

Sessions FAQ

Here are some common questions people have about sessions when they’re first learning.

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How long should a session last?

Sessions have no ‘correct’ length. It can last a few minutes, or an hour or longer.

However, when you first start doing them, they will be a little bit long because you’re still getting used to the Finger-Testing and the different options in the software.

Eventually most of your sessions will last minutes, but their impacts will be deep. Experienced persons will typically have sessions lasting just 5 to 10 minutes.

How many techniques or lists should I use?

There is no correct number. The only “correct” number is to do the number your body wants.

In one session your body may only want 1 or 2 techniques or lists, while in another session your body may demand 10 or more! It’s all good.

This is not a problem unless your body has chosen so many techniques or lists that time is running away and it’s becoming ridiculous. If that happens, just ask your body if you can stop the session there and resume it at a later time.

The shortest number we’ve ever seen is 1, and the largest number is 45. Typically, though, it averages about 5.

Should a session upset me?

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No, it should not, but it might.

Popular entertainment has given people strange ideas about what should happen in an emotional therapy.

You see people shouting out to the heavens with a sudden epiphany, breaking down in despair as they dig up “repressed memories”, screaming in anger at their parents, or just breaking down in tears and sobbing uncontrollably.

In our therapy such events are rare.

The most common thing you will experience in Self-Rewiring is:

  • Understanding yourself better.
  • “Bringing out into the open” how you feel.
  • Getting “something off your chest”.

Yes, you’ll occasionally remember something forgotten from years ago, but this is not really “repressed memories”. They are more likely to just be long forgotten memories.

Most sessions will feel relieving, like you’ve “got a weight off your chest”.

Yes, occasionally a session may be upsetting. However, that is just a natural reaction to thinking about something painful. You don’t need to be upset to heal, and you don’t need to be upset in every session.

Many other therapies promote the false idea that the more pain you bring up, the more healing you will do. We reject this idea; it’s just not our experience. Healing seems to be a calming experience that gives you a feeling of relief, not one of stress.

In Self-Rewiring, even very upsetting sessions are forgotten a few hours later. In contrast, other therapies can leave their patients upset for days or week afterwards – and no better for it!

What if I get stuck?

You shouldn’t really get stuck, as the software is always giving you different options. Your body just needs to choose between them.

The only way to get ‘stuck’ is if your body has accidentally chosen the wrong option, and everything further on from that choice is not chosen, is a “no”, or is not applicable to you.

If this happens, just click the “ Back” link that appears at the bottom of each screen and try again. Your body will probably choose a different direction.

If you are ‘stuck’ because your body stops responding, see below.

What if my body stops responding?

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This will happen. It happens to everyone doing Self-Rewiring, even those who have been doing it for years!

If your body stops responding it’s because you’re too stressed. What can you do?

  • Try to calm down.
  • Take a deep breath.
  • Drink some water.
  • Shake your arms and hands.

If none of this works, you might just need to take a break for a minute or so. If that still doesn’t work, stop your session. Save it and come back later when you’re calmer.

React; Don’t react

An easy way to see if your body is responding again is to simply ask your fingers to react:

  1. Say, “React” and test to see if the thumb escapes.
  2. Then say, “Don’t react” and test to see if the thumb is not allowed to escape.

If your fingers operate as they should, you know all is well.

This “React; Don’t react” method is very useful, and most people doing Self-Rewiring use it. You can use it before a session to check that you’re operating properly. Use it during a session before asking a question that feels stressful.

If your body seems to be reacting correctly, but then stops again when you return to your session, there is probably no problem with your body reacting, but instead your body has a problem with the session subject!

If the subject is too stressful at this time, it’s just not going to work. Or if you’re forcing yourself to do a session on something you don’t want to change, your body will resist – usually by not responding.

Too many times

One last thing: your body will stop responding if you ask the same question too many times in a row. It’s almost like the body is thinking, “Hey, I told you already!” and the reaction gets weaker and weaker with each attempt. This is a problem if the reaction was already weak to start with.

So if you want to confirm an answer, instead of asking the same question over and over, try rephrasing your question. This usually works well. You can even just ask, “Reveal if that answer was true: Yes, No, Maybe”.

What about embarrassing sessions?

Sometimes you do sessions on embarrassing things that you don’t want listed in your account. What can you do?

You can hide sessions. Click the cog next to the session you want to hide. This will open a small menu which includes the “Hide this session” option. Click it, then click a second time to confirm. The session will disappear.

Later, you can get all your hidden sessions back again by using the “Reveal hidden sessions” feature on your Preferences page.

Alternatively, delete your embarrassing sessions or only perform them while logged out.

What’s next

You might be ready to try out doing a session on yourself. The next chapter will help you do this.