Tutorial

2.9

Ending your session

This chapter shows you how to end your session correctly. When you finish this chapter, you’ll know how to do every part of a Self-Rewiring session!

How to end your session

Remember, your body chooses when to end your session. When you’re on the What do I need now? menu and test, “Reveal what I need...” your body can choose the “End session” button.

The “End session” button is the last button on the last line:

However, the session doesn’t end immediately. There’s a couple of things the software will ask you first.

When you click “End session” you’ll see this menu:

End session

Test, “Reveal what I need to end the session...”

It gives three options:

  • Replace something: this is an opportunity to replace, in your imagination, something you may have learned during the session with something else you want instead.
  • Get homework: Your body may want you to repeat something you did in the session, or remind yourself of something you learned.
  • End session now: Just end the session immediately.

I’ll quickly show you these options.

Replacing something

This is what Replace something looks like:

Replace something

What’s this?

Here is an opportunity to use your imagination to replace something you considered in this session with something you really want instead.

What to replace?

  1. Think, what would you like to replace? Is it something you learned in this session, or something else?
  2. Test, “Reveal if that’s correct: Yes, No, Maybe.” If correct, type it:

Replace with...?

  1. Think, what do you want to have instead? This can be represented by a picture, a colour, a symbol, a feeling, or anything you want.
  2. Have an idea? Test, “Reveal if this is correct: Yes, No, Maybe.” If correct, type it:

  1. Close your eyes and imagine it. When you’re done, take a deep breath.

Keep it?

  1. Test, “Reveal if I need to keep this: Yes, No, Maybe.”
  2. If you do, think where and test, “Reveal if this is the correct place: Yes, No, Maybe.”
  3. If correct, close your eyes and imagine yourself putting it there. When done, open your eyes and take a deep breath.

First you’re asked to think what it is you want to replace, then you’re asked what you want to replace it with. Your body confirms both of these choices via testing. Finally, you close your eyes and imagine one thing being replaced with the other.

It’s just like the replacement options you’ve seen earlier, when looking at other ages and persons.

What might you want to replace?

Well, because this is the end of your session, you might want to replace how you felt at the start of the session, with how you now understand and feel about matters. Whatever idea you come up with, your body will tell you whether it’s correct or not.

Get homework

In school, who liked homework? Hardly anybody! But imagine if instead of the teacher setting the homework, it was the pupils! What homework would you have set yourself?

Well, at the end of a Self-Rewiring session, your body can set itself whatever homework it would enjoy and benefit from.

Here’s what the homework instructions look like:

Get homework

What’s this?

Your body wants you to do something after this session is over, perhaps for a few days. This may help continue effect of this session.

Do what?

  1. Test, “Reveal if it’s a technique already performed in this session: Yes, No, Maybe.”
  2. If yes, scroll up, or look at your session overview to find something. If it’s not? Think what you may need to do.
  3. Found something? Test, “Reveal if it’s that: Yes, No, Maybe”. If it is, type it:

For how long?

  1. Test, “Reveal how many days I need to do it: 1, 2, 3, ...”
  2. Type how long:

day(s)

  1. Do it now for practice.

Homework isn’t chosen at the end of every session. In fact, it’s only chosen in about 10% of sessions; but when it is chosen, it appears to be important.

Homework seems to allow the effects of a session to continue for more time. Perhaps your body needs more time to process and change something? We don’t know for sure.

What kind of homework would you do? Well, usually your body will choose one simple thing. The most common is to remind yourself of some key thought or key phrase that you learned in your session. Or maybe to repeat a particular technique, such as the eye movements, once a day for a few days.

The homework is never difficult or a burden. It is usually simple, fun, and quick.

Your one-line summary

Once your body chooses the ‘End session now’ button, then your session is over. There will be no more Finger-Testing. However, there is one last thing.

Have you ever wished that you had kept a diary? Sometimes we wish we could look back and reflect on past events, especially for the more important times in our life.

Well, at this time you are doing Self-Rewiring. This could be one of the most important times of your life. It’s the time when you are ‘growing out’ of your issues! Difficult problems that have affected you for decades may finally diminish or even disappear. If there was ever a time to keep a diary, it’s now.

So Self-Rewiring allows you to keep a kind of ‘diary’ saved into your account. It’s right here, at the end of every session. It’s called the One-line summary:

One-line summary

One-line summary

  1. To end your session, think what you’ve learned and want to take away from this session.
  2. Then type it below.

Your future self will thank you

Writing a short one-line session summary is extremely useful, because this summary will appear on your list of sessions. After a while, your Self-Rewiring account will contain a long list showing everything you have discovered in your sessions. Can you imagine that?

You will be able to scroll down that list, seeing your progress session after session, week after week, as you grow out of your old issues.

So I highly recommend that you write a one-line summary at the end of every session. There’s no requirement to use Finger-Testing to confirm that your summary text is correct; however, some people do this anyway.

When you’ve written your one-line summary and are happy with it, you click “Done”.

Your session is over!

Illustration

What would I write in a one-line session summary?

You could write:

  • What you have learned in the session, or
  • Whatever decision or realisation you want to take away from the session.
  • What conclusion the session has helped you to come to.

Try to keep it short and to the point. Don’t write War and Peace.

Illustration

What if my session is very long or very short?

Your body can make your sessions as long or as short as it likes.

There’s no rule saying a session must be a certain length of time. Sessions can last a few minutes, or an hour. Your body decides.

If you have a session that lasts two minutes, that’s okay. It might be short for a good reason! Perhaps the subject is difficult, and two minutes is all your body can manage.

However, the average session is probably between five and ten minutes, but this is not something to aim for. When your body wants to end your session, let it. Do not think it is ‘wrong’ to end a session quickly, and do not force your body to do more than it wants.

If you try to force your body to continue when it doesn’t want to, it won’t work anyway!

Take a look

Please get to know the options on the End session menu.

Please go to the session page and immediately start and end a session, playing with the End session menu. Finally, write a fake one-line summary.

What’s next

Well done, you’ve now seen everything there is in the therapy.

In the next part of this tutorial I’ll show you a full example session from beginning to end. After that I’ll quickly answer the most common questions about sessions, give you some advice about performing your first one, and finally I’ll give you some advice to make your therapy a great success!

Chapter review

  • Before ending, you can make a replacement of something felt or learned in your session.
  • Setting yourself homework can help to keep the effects of a session going over time.
  • One-line summaries can be read on your list of sessions, so you can see your progress over time.