Tutorial

2.6

The lists (part one)

In this chapter, we will let your own body tell you what’s really going on. I’ll show you how to use our fantastic lists to reveal what you think, feel, and desire.

Our lists

If a skilled workman wants to do the best job possible, in the quickest time possible, they will need some excellent tools and materials. The better the tools and the higher quality the materials, the better the job he can do.

In Self-Rewiring we give you the best tools. Our lists are some of our best ones.

Your body will sometimes need to tell you what you’re feeling. How? We have lists of feelings, so via Finger-Testing, your body can pick an item from a list to tell you what’s going on.

So, Self-Rewiring has lots and lots of lists, four categories of them:

  • Feelings has 3 lists
  • Desires has 3 lists
  • Thoughts has 5 lists
  • Emotions contains a chart of 40 emotional words

They’re all quite easy to use. In this chapter I'll show you the first two: the Feelings and Desires lists. We’ll consider the last two in the next chapter.

Let’s get started.

How to use them

Like most things in Self-Rewiring, most of them work in the same way.

For example, here is the first list within the Feelings category. It’s called “I must be...”:

I must be...

What’s this?

What must you be and feel? Something good that you really want? Something that you seek and would really help you if only you could be that way? Alternatively, is it something negative that your body feels is inevitable, like it’s your fate, or all you’re good for?

  1. Test, “Reveal what I must be...”

Using this list is simple.

You finger-test each word or phrase to see which ones your body chooses. When your body chooses an item, you tick the box. That’s it.

Your body can choose one, two, three, four, five, or, heck, in theory you could even choose all of them (although I’ve never seen that happen).

You don’t do anything more with it. It’s just for your information. Sure, you might want to sit for a moment and think about it. Sometimes the truths revealed by these lists are deep and profound. That’s their power.

Lists are a big part of Self-Rewiring, so below are some common questions about them and some very useful tips.

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Do I test the whole list?

Yes, but we can be smart about it.

Considering the above list, let’s pretend that I’m doing a session on some subject. I say, “Reveal what I must be...” and begin testing, and my body chooses one.

What do I do then? Do I stop the technique?

Well, I could, but what if my body would also like a second word? Or a third? I wouldn’t want to miss something important. On the other hand, if there’s nothing else my body wants, it’s a huge pain to test a long list like that just to come up with nothing!

So here’s a trick: After choosing your first word, test, “Reveal if there might be another one: Yes, No, Maybe.” If your body say ‘Yes’ or ‘Maybe’, continue testing. If it says ‘No’, then you’re finished and can click “Done”.

Obviously I can only ask myself that question because I’ve used the list a few times and I know it well. When you first start out, you won’t be able to do this. You’ll need to be fairly familiar with all the lists before you can start just asking yourself if there’s anything else.

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Is there a quicker way to test these long lists?

Yes.

And with good reason. Imagine if the answer your body wants turns out to be the last item! How annoying! So to help speed things up, there’s something to help you:

Do you notice how all the items are grouped into fours? That’s to help you test them all a bit quicker.

Looking at the above list, I can say “Right, Wrong, Loved, Rejected” and test them all as a group. Then I test the next group of four, then the next group, and so on. If my body chooses a group, then I only test each individual item in that group. There’s no need to test each and every single item, one-at-a-time. No, instead we test four-at-a-time.

This is the smart way to do it.

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How does your body know which list to choose?

There’s no magic!

You must be more-or-less familiar with the contents of all the lists. You must know, pretty much, what each list contains. Otherwise, how would your body know which list to choose? So, if you want to use these list, you must read through all of them, at least once.

And don’t be afraid to admit that your body has picked the wrong list. It happens. Just click “ Back” until you reach What do I need now? and test again.

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How do I become familiar with these lists?

For the first few times that you use these lists in your sessions, you might want to quickly skim over the entire list with your eyes, to remind yourself of what’s there before you start testing.

Remember also that your body might change it’s mind. Your body might choose nothing from a list. And that’s fine, these lists are new to you. Your body is surely going to choose the wrong list a few times!

Now I’ll give you a quick tour of all the Feelings lists.

The Feelings lists

The Feelings lists

Test, “Reveal which...”

These three lists show what feelings may be behind your issues. Including: what you believe you must feel (“I must be...”), what feeling you’ll get in exchange for being yourself or for being in your situation (“I will get...), or what you fear you might feel (“I fear...”).

“I must be...” is the list we showed above. It lists things that you may believe you must be or must feel. It can be things that you really want, like being loved, or free, or brave. Alternatively, it could be something negative that your body feels is inevitable, like it’s “your fate”, or it’s “all you’re good for”; such as feeling that you must be rejected, or overlooked, or alone – because that is your “lot in life”!

“I will get...” is split into two lists. They are lists of things you will get in return for being who you are, or for acting in a certain way. The positive things you may get are: to feel happy, good, accepted, and so on. On the other hand, the negative things you may get are: to feel bad, damaged, empty, and so on.

“I fear...” is not a list of phobias, like being frighted of spiders or heights. No, this is more personal. For example, to fear your future, to fear responsibilities, to fear being ridiculed, and so on.

Get a feel for them

Please read through these lists to get familiar with them. You could even pretend you’re doing a session on a subject to see which words resonate with your body.

Please go to the session page and do that now.

The Desires lists

There are three lists in the Desires category.

The Desires lists

Test, “Reveal which...”

These lists help identify desires that are either unhelpful, or are good but are causing pain by going unfulfilled. They list different desires (“I desire to be...”), why they may be there (“The purpose of my desire”), and describe their unhealthy nature (“Describe my desire”).

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“I desire to be...” lists things you may like to be and experience.

This is much deeper and more insightful than if we just had a list of different desires, like a desire for chocolate, or alcohol, or pornography, or whatever. This list is more about finding out the real desire that’s being satisfied, such as a desire for acceptance, comfort, or love.

For example, you might be drinking too much alcohol, but the real desire you are satisfying might be a desire to be stubborn, or successful, or acceptable, or something else. It’s different for everyone, and there might be a dozen different desires involved behind-the-scenes, combining to cause a problem with alcohol (or whatever).

“The purpose of my desire” is a clever one. It lists four different motivations for a desire:

  • To use what I desire
  • To have what I desire
  • To be what I desire
  • To get something from what I desire

The list contains a full-length description of each of the above.

For example, if my body chose “To use what I desire” and I clicked it, this description appears:

Using this is exactly what I require to maintain my life and bring it all together.

In fact, this is absolutely necessary! If I can use this for my own ends, there is surely no risk of my life going to pieces.

Actually, it does take some strength on my part to get this. When I use this then I am fully assured that everything is all right.

You are then asked to click on and the parts that are important to you; this highlights them. You can try this above.

Finally, you’ll be asked if you want to read the “reality”. What’s that? The “reality” is a second piece of text that is almost the opposite of the first – instead of describing how you feel, it describes the reality that you probably cannot see!

For example, if my body said that I do need to read the reality, I would click the “Read the reality” button, and this text would appear:

I will only pay any attention to this for as long as I can get what I want out of it.

The truth is that I actually don’t really need to use this as glue to stick myself together. In fact, I never really needed to use this at all!

In reality, I already have within me everything I need to use. Within myself is, and always was, the true sources of strength to bring my life together.

Any of these things outside of myself are, in fact, inferior. With me are exactly the things I need to use.

Can you see how this text is very much the opposite of the previous text? Again, the session page will ask you to highlight the parts that your body feels are important.

Lastly, you ask your body how much of the above “reality” text you can accept as true. Can you accept 100% of it? Or more like 50%? 10%? Or even 0%? Why do we ask this? Because there is no way you will be ready to accept the reality as true! Otherwise there would be no problem! In time, with enough sessions, you should be able accept a higher and higher percentage of the “reality” texts.

“Describe my desire” is the last Desires list. It works in exactly the same way as the previous technique, but it lists eight instead of four, and this time they are different kinds of desire.

Is your desire...

  • Essential
  • Brazen
  • Important
  • Exquisite
  • Unattainable
  • Superficial
  • Self-degrading
  • Irresistible

Like the previous technique, you are instructed to click on the one your body chooses. Then you get a description to read, but the descriptions here are much shorter! Likewise, there is also a reality you can read, along with a percentage box where your body can say how much it agrees with it.

These three desires lists are some of the most powerful things in Self-Rewiring.

I desire you to take a look

Please read through these lists, and if you feel you’ve ‘got it’ try them out for real. Pretend you’re doing a session on some subject. It might be both fun and insightful!

Please go to the session page now and take a look at these Desires lists.

What’s next

Can you see how powerful these lists can be? Using just one of these lists could help you discover something in seconds, that a therapist could take hours or weeks to realise!

In the next chapter, I’ll show you the final lists in our therapy.

Chapter review

  • Your body can choose as many items as it wants from a checkbox list.
  • Test the checkbox lists in groups of four, and after getting an answer, ask if you need to test for more.
  • In the last two Desires lists (The purpose of my desire and Describe my desire), you get two pieces of text: the first one describing the desire, and a second text, describing “reality”.