Tutorial

2.6

Feelings

In this chapter, we will let your own body tell you what’s really going on. I’ll show you how to use our fantastic lists to reveal what you think, feel, and desire.

Our lists

If a skilled workman wants to do the best job possible, in the quickest time possible, they will need some excellent tools and materials. The better the tools and the higher quality the materials, the better the job he can do.

In Self-Rewiring we give you the best tools. Our lists are some of our best ones.

Your body will sometimes need to tell you what you’re feeling. How? We have lists of feelings, so via Finger-Testing, your body can pick an item from a list to tell you what’s going on.

So, Self-Rewiring has lots and lots of lists, four categories of them:

  • “Feelings” has 3 lists (plus an “Emotions chart”)
  • “Desires” has 3 lists
  • “Thoughts” has 5 lists
  • “Toxic people” has 4 lists

They’re all quite easy to use. In this chapter I'll show you the first: the Feelings lists. We’ll consider the others afterwards.

Let’s get started.

How to use them

Like most things in Self-Rewiring, most of them work in the same way.

For example, here is the first list within the Feelings category. It’s called “I must be...”:

I must be...

What’s this?

What must you be and feel? Something good that you really want? Something that you seek and would really help you if only you could be that way? Alternatively, is it something negative that your body feels is inevitable, like it’s your fate, or all you’re good for?

  1. Test, “Reveal what I must be...”

Your interpretation

  1. What do the chosen options mean to you? Test if unsure. Type it below:

Using this list is simple.

You finger-test each word or phrase to see which ones your body chooses. When your body chooses an item, you tick the box. That’s it.

Your body can choose one, two, three, four, five, or, heck, in theory you could even choose all of them (although I’ve never seen that happen).

You don’t do anything more with it. It’s just for your information. Sure, you might want to sit for a moment and think about it. Sometimes the truths revealed by these lists are deep and profound. That’s their power.

Lists are a big part of Self-Rewiring, so below are some common questions about them and some very useful tips.

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Do I test the whole list?

Yes, but we can be smart about it.

Considering the above list, let’s pretend that I’m doing a session on some subject. I say, “Reveal what I must be...” and begin testing, and my body chooses one.

What do I do then? Do I stop the technique?

Well, I could, but what if my body would also like a second word? Or a third? I wouldn’t want to miss something important. On the other hand, if there’s nothing else my body wants, it’s a huge pain to test a long list like that just to come up with nothing!

So here’s a trick: After choosing your first word, test, “Reveal if there might be another one: Yes, No, Maybe.” If your body say ‘Yes’ or ‘Maybe’, continue testing. If it says ‘No’, then you’re finished and can click “Done”.

Obviously I can only ask myself that question because I’ve used the list a few times and I know it well. When you first start out, you won’t be able to do this. You’ll need to be fairly familiar with all the lists before you can start just asking yourself if there’s anything else.

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Is there a quicker way to test these long lists?

Yes.

And with good reason. Imagine if the answer your body wants turns out to be the last item! How annoying! So to help speed things up, there’s something to help you:

Do you notice how all the items are grouped into fours? That’s to help you test them all a bit quicker.

Looking at the above list, I can say “Right, Wrong, Loved, Rejected” and test them all as a group. Then I test the next group of four, then the next group, and so on. If my body chooses a group, then I only test each individual item in that group. There’s no need to test each and every single item, one-at-a-time. No, instead we test four-at-a-time.

This is the smart way to do it.

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How does your body know which list to choose?

There’s no magic!

You must be more-or-less familiar with the contents of all the lists. You must know, pretty much, what each list contains. Otherwise, how would your body know which list to choose? So, if you want to use these list, you must read through all of them, at least once.

And don’t be afraid to admit that your body has picked the wrong list. It happens. Just click “ Back” until you reach What do I need now? and test again.

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How do I become familiar with these lists?

For the first few times that you use these lists in your sessions, you might want to quickly skim over the entire list with your eyes, to remind yourself of what’s there before you start testing.

Remember also that your body might change it’s mind. Your body might choose nothing from a list. And that’s fine, these lists are new to you. Your body is surely going to choose the wrong list a few times!

The Feelings lists

Now I’ll give you a quick tour of all the Feelings lists. It’s the first button on this row:

And here’s the Feelings menu:

The Feelings lists

Test, “Reveal which...”

These lists show what feelings may be behind your issues. Including: what you believe you must feel (“I must be...”), what feeling you’ll get in exchange for being yourself or for being in your situation (“I will get...), or what you fear you might feel (“I fear...”). In addition we have our “Emotions chart” of 40 different emotional words.

“I must be...” is the list we showed above. It lists things you may believe you must be or must feel. It can be things that you really want, like being loved, or free, or brave. Alternatively, it could be something negative that your body feels is inevitable, like it’s “your fate”, or it’s “all you’re good for”; such as feeling that you must be rejected, or overlooked, or alone – because that is your “lot in life”!

“I will get...” is split into two lists. They are lists of things you will get in return for being who you are, or for acting in a certain way. The positive things you may get are: to feel happy, good, accepted, and so on. On the other hand, the negative things you may get are: to feel bad, damaged, empty, and so on.

“I fear...” is not a list of phobias, like being frighted of spiders or heights. No, this is more personal. For example, to fear your future, to fear responsibilities, to fear being ridiculed, and so on.

“Emotions chart” is a chart of 40 emotional words, covering the full spectrum of human emotions.

Emotions chart

The Emotions chart is a bit more than a list. It’s a chart that lists 40 emotions. It’s like a “catch all” when none of the other lists have what your body wants to say.

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This chart categorises almost all of the emotions we humans feel. It’s cleverly designed.

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There are eight main categories of emotions.

These are shown in BLUE TEXT. You can see here we have Joy, Energy, Connection, and so on.

Each word in has an opposite word.

The opposite word is directly on the opposite side of the chart. For example, at the top we have “euphoria”, and at the bottom we have it’s opposite, “despair”. Clearly “euphoria” and “despair” are opposites.

Also look at “fanaticism”, with it’s opposite, “exhaustion”. Clearly you can’t be fanatical about something and exhausted at the same time, although one may lead to the other.

There are also related words that are diagonally opposite.

For example, the diagonally opposite word to both “euphoria” and “despair” is “hysteria” (on the far left). Clearly you can be hysterical over something because you love it so much, or hysterical over something because you hate it so much! Hence the word “hysteria” is a related word to both euphoria and despair.

The software guides you.

The chart is very clever. But please don’t worry if you think it looks complicated! The software on the session page will guide you through the words on the chart so you don’t have to work out the opposite or related words yourself.

The software will direct you to ask your body to choose from the major words on the chart: “Fanaticism”, “Joy”, “Energy”, and so on. Then when you click on the chosen category, underneath it loads up more words for you to test.

And so it goes on. The software will guide you.

What if English isn’t my first language?

We understand that some people didn’t grow up with English. So, when going through the technique in a real session, next to each word is a simple dictionary definition of the word.

Some words have more than one meaning in English, so the software shows you which definition we use.

Get a feel for them

Please take a look at the Feelings lists to get familiar with them. You could even pretend you’re doing a session on a subject to see which words resonate with your body.

Please go to the session page and do that now.

What’s next

Can you see how powerful these lists can be? Using just one of these lists could help you discover something in seconds, that a therapist could take hours or weeks to realise!

In the next chapter, I’ll show you our Desires and Thoughts lists.

Chapter review

  • Your body can choose as many items as it wants from a checkbox list.
  • Test the checkbox lists in groups of four, and after getting an answer, ask if you need to test for more.
  • The Feelings lists and Emotions chart help you to identify what you are feeling now or felt in the past.