Tutorial

2.3

Look at my past

In this chapter, you’ll see how to dive into your past, and see how your past experiences, choices, and thoughts have influenced the development of your personality.

Is the past important?

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Some people doubt that your past influences your problems today. Yet, without your past, you would not have your present.

Consider the enormous events that have happened in your life:

  • At one time in your past, you were born.
  • At one time in your past you finished puberty.
  • At one time in your past, a personal problem began.

You are who you are today, because of what happened in your past.

Examples

  • No one woke up one day and decided to become a drug addict or an alcoholic. Past events led them down that road.
  • Likewise, no one woke up one day and decided to be racist. Something, or things, happened to make them feel that way.

Looking at your past

This feature of Self-Rewiring allows your body to identify what times in your past are important, yes, what times influenced who you are today and the block you are trying to rewire.

I’ll show you how it works.

Let’s pretend that you’ve started a session, and have arrived at What Do I Need Now?:

What do I need now?

Test, “Reveal what I need...”

You test the question, “Reveal what I need...” and your body chooses “ Look at my past”.

You click “Look at my past”, and now see this:

Look at my past (1 of 2)

What’s this?

When you look at an age, you concentrate on what you felt, thought, and experienced around that time. Changing how you feel about your past, will also change how you feel in the present, helping you to grow out of whatever issue your past helped to create.

  1. Test, ”Reveal the age I need to look at...”

What do you do here? Well, first you need to identify the broad age-range. So you test, “Reveal the age I need to look at...” and read out the age categories.

Your body chooses “Age 20 to 15”, so you click that, and this is what you see:

Look at my past (2 of 2)

  1. Test, “Reveal which age...”

Next you test, “Reveal which age...”

Your body chose “Age 17”, so you click that. This returns you to the What do I need now? menu – but it’s changed!

  • Can you spot the two changes?

At age 17, what do I need?

Test, “Reveal what I need...”

Did you manage to spot both changes?

  • #1 The title has changed from saying “What do I need now?” to saying, “At age 17, what do I need?”
  • #2 The button “Look at my past” has changed to become “Done with age” (that’s the button my body can choose when it’s finished looking at age 17).

In addition, a strip will appear at the bottom of the screen saying “Age 17”. It looks like this:

Age 17

It reminds you that you’re looking at a certain age, so you don’t forget!

You are now “17” again

From this point on, anything you do in this session will be looking at age 17:

  • What happened at age 17
  • What you experienced at age 17
  • How you felt at age 17
  • What you decided at age 17
  • And so on...

You probably have a few questions about looking at a past age. Here are some common questions and answers below:

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Why would the body choose a certain age?

It could be for a few reasons:

  • Maybe something specific happened at that time.
  • Maybe you saw something happen to someone else.
  • Your body might just want to look at how you felt at that time generally.
  • Or how you felt about your friends, or being at school, or your job, or your family.
  • Sometimes it’s the time when you first realised, understood, or decided something.
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Is the age accurate?

Not necessarily.

In your mind, the events of the past are usually pretty jumbled up. People misremember things all the time. So your body might take you to age 9, and you end up considering events that you later realise happened at age 12.

All memories in the brain are interconnected and meshed together. In Self-Rewiring we’re dealing with feelings and impressions, emotions that are imprecise – we’re not writing a history book.

Sometimes the chosen age is precise, but often it just means “around that time”.

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Is this a way of uncovering “repressed memories”?

No.

Despite what you may have heard, “repressed memories” are mostly a myth.

Some therapists helped their patients ‘uncover’ memories of abuse that never happened, ridiculous stories of “satanic cults”, and other nonsense that turns out to be false.

Not only are the details of such stories wrong, or impossible, but generally humans do not unconsciously block, or “repress”, bad memories. Studies show that traumatic memories are actually the ones you are most likely to remember!

For example, in one study, researchers used official police reports to locate and interview adults who witnessed murders when they were children. Rather than “repressing” the memories, it was found that nearly all of them remembered the events vividly, even those who were very young at the time.

So, in a Self-Rewiring session, while you often remember things you haven’t thought about for many years, do not think that you’ll be uncovering “repressed memories”. Truly repressed memories are extremely rare, and they may not be “repressed” at all, but simply forgotten.

Sometimes people confuse “repression” with “suppression”. In suppression, events are remembered, but the importance of them is denied for many years.

For example, one study found that the average age of beginning to deal with childhood sexual abuse was 52. This does not mean that the memories were “repressed” until age 52. It means it takes the average person that many years to feel emotionally ready to deal with those memories. They remembered what happened, but “suppressed” the memories consciously and deliberately. This is not “repression”, which is unconscious. This is “suppression”, which is a deliberate survival mechanism.

How often should I look at my past in a session?

There is no rule. Use this feature as often or as rarely as your body wants.

On average a person uses this feature once per session.

However, there is nothing wrong with your body choosing to look at age 17, then age 10, then age 18, and then down to age 3. Likewise, it’s okay if your body never uses this feature.

When finished with an age

The last thing to show you is how we finish looking at a past age. As I said earlier, when your body has finished looking at an age, it can choose the “Done with age” button:

When clicked, you are given three options:

Done with this age

Test, “Reveal what I need to do...”

These three options are:

  • “Replace this age”. This is a special technique. It allows you to take the entire age, or something from that age, and imagine replacing it with something else that you would have wanted back then instead.
  • “Look at another age”. This simply shows you the same menu you saw before, listing all the ages.
  • “Return to today”. This ends your time-travel adventure and you will return to looking at today again. The What do I need now? menu changes back to how it was, and you will no longer be looking at your past.

What’s next

In the next chapter I will show you the next feature of Self-Rewiring: Look at someone.

Chapter review

  • Much of who you are today is because of your past.
  • Looking at your past allows you to change how your past affects you in the present.
  • The age your body chooses will be approximate.

Take a look

Please go to the session page and play around with looking at an age.

Try pretending you are doing a session, and ask your body –via Finger-Testing– to choose an age that you would like to look at. Don’t do anything more, this is just for fun.