Tutorial

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You can see your emotions

Did you know that your body is a transmitter? Yes, it’s constantly transmitting signals that reveal how you feel. In our therapy, we read these signals. I’m going to tell you what these signals look like, and the amazing advantages of reading them.

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Your “transmissions”

Many of the signals that your body transmits are obvious:

  • When you see something funny, you laugh.
  • When you feel embarrassed, you blush.
  • If you get a shock, you jump.
  • Even when you’re asleep you give off signals showing whether you’re having a good or a bad dream.

But there are many other reactions that are subtle and cannot be seen so easily.

For example:

  • Have you ever “felt your heart sink” at seeing some tragedy in the news?
  • Have you ever had “butterflies in your stomach” when about to meet someone new or to speak in front of an audience?

Every emotion you feel causes a reaction in your body, yes, even very small emotions! The smaller the emotion, the smaller the reaction.

Why they’re useful

These tiny ‘transmissions’ can be extremely useful for an emotional therapy, especially the signals you transmit when asked a question, or presented with an idea. How so?

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Well, imagine that you are speaking to a therapist. They listen to what you say, and then form an opinion about it. They may describe to you how you feel, what they believe causes it, and what you should do to resolve the matter. A few therapists may also look at your body language, but most do not.

What’s the problem?

Well, all therapists have their own ideas, theories, and assumptions – and experiments show that much of the time, therapists get it wrong. Indeed, when different therapists are presented with the same set of facts, they can reach wildly different conclusions.

And even if a therapist gets it all correct, it may take them hours or even weeks and months of expensive sessions to work it out and tell you about it.

However, what would happen if we stopped listening to people’s opinions, and instead listened to our body's reactions? Our body will always show how we feel immediately and with total accuracy.

Our body can even react to theories. It can tell us if we’ve “hit an emotional nerve” by discovering a profound or painful truth. Or it can show us that our theories are way off by showing no reaction at all.

So, how do we do it?

A few lucky people can already feel even the most subtle reactions in their own body. However, anyone can learn how to read their own body’s signals. Happily, it’s very easy.

In Self-Rewiring, we use a simple method called Finger-Testing to read all of our body’s emotional reactions – big and small. Without it, our therapy could not work.

In the next chapter, I’m going to show you:

  • What Finger-Testing looks like,
  • How to learn it yourself, and
  • How it can benefit you.

Chapter review

  • Your body reacts to everything you feel.
  • These reactions are always accurate.
  • Therapists form opinions based on their own ideas and prejudices, almost never on what your body says.