News headlines claim that scientists have discovered that people are “born” a certain way. They say our personality traits are “in the genes”. Is it true?
Tabloid journalists love a story about a “gene” being discovered that “causes” different personality traits. A gene causing everything from obesity to adultery has been “found” according to the media. Yet it is mostly nonsense.
The truth about genetics is not so simple:
So the story is not as simple as the newspapers would have you believe. Having a certain gene does not doom you to be a certain way.
Genetics certainly influence us, but they cannot be your fate. We know this thanks to identical twins.
Identical twins have the same DNA, so if one has a certain personality trait which is genetic, the other twin must always have the same trait too. If identical twins do not always share the same personality traits, then those traits cannot be entirely genetic.
What do we find if we look at these things among identical twins?:
How many of these traits will we find in both twins 100% of the time?
Yes, none of those traits are always present in both identical twins.
Compare this to real genetic traits like eye colour, or hair colour. Or consider genetic disorders, such as albinism. These are all the same in both identical twins 100% of the time.
Yes, our DNA influences us, but it cannot dictate.
For example, if your DNA makes you grow 2 metres tall, it’s influence means playing basketball is naturally easier for you. Yet would we say that you have a “basketball player gene”? Are you destined to become a basketball player? Is it your fate? Hardly!
Yes, there is no genetic influence that can determine your personality or forces you to be a certain way. They can encourage, sure. They can facilitate, sure. But determine, like fate? Identical twins prove that the answer is no.
Your legs are genetic. I’m sure they’re in your DNA. You were definitely born with a “leg gene” (many, in fact). Does that mean your legs cannot be removed? Hardly. A simple sharp axe can remove this “genetic trait”.
Yes, even though you were “born this way”, you can experience radical change with the right “therapy”!
Let’s imagine that our emotional issues are genetic. Would it matter? Just because something is genetic doesn’t mean it can’t be improved or changed. Genetic conditions are successfully treated every day.
Consider these genetic conditions:
Yes, we have the knowledge to treat – and even cure – many disorders caused by faulty genes. This happens every day in hospitals all over the world. So how could anyone say that something would be unchangeable just because “it’s in the genes”? Saying such a thing is not only unscientific, but quite bizarre.
The field of epigenetics is the study of how the “expression” of your genes changes over time. This means the influence of your genetics changes.
Your genes can switch on, switch off, or act differently based upon your experiences, nutrition, choices, and environment. Yes your genes can, and do, change.
Our therapy, Self-Rewiring, can help you to “grow out of” emotional issues. How those issues began is unimportant, and it doesn’t matter if your genes played a role or not.
Next time you hear someone claim that they could never solve, or even improve, their emotional issues because they were “born this way”, remember:
The truth is, most people who claim that their problems are in their DNA want it to be true, as it’s an excuse to avoid therapy, to wallow in self-pity, or to justify and make excuses for their own bad behaviour. Such people do not want to change and saying “I was born this way” is a convenient excuse.
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